You're Going to be a Great Husband and Father

-- A letter to my son-in-law
Typed version


You have a natural wisdom that not a lot of others have. You understand that the things that matter the most require the most—the most time, effort, energy, love, sacrifice, patience, compassion—whatever is needed. Whoever gets this will has a real chance at a happier life because they’re willing to go the true distance and you are. This is a rare trait and it’s one that you have and it has greatly helped to endear you to everyone in the family.

Lots of folks wrongly think of marriage and fatherhood as being a handicap to happiness because it requires so much. It does…but that’s the wrong way of looking at it. Marriage and fatherhood is an immense opportunity to live a deeper life precisely because it forces you to grow into something more—something better. In fact, I think it’s a person’s single best chance on this earth to live the deepest life possible. You get this completely and that is why I’m sure you’re going to be a great husband to my daughter and a wonderful father to my grandchildren and it’s one of the many reasons why I love you so much.

I’m proud of you and I love you!

If a prior Marine, combat veteran, prior police officer, a kid who failed highschool because he wouldn't write a 5 page paper, and a man who didn't tell his mom that he loved her until he was 36 could figure out how to write handwritten love letters...then so can you! You can do it!
Special Notes
  1. To learn more please watch this video!
  2. Each day I write a handwritten letter to my wife, one our children, or their spouses or soon to be spouses. That's a total of 13 people in the rotation!
  3. To respect their privacy I don't use their names when I post their letter online. I just share a little bit about them for context. Also, each person decides which letters to post or not to post--it's completely up to them.
  4. I use different stamps and seal each envelop with's super cool and the letter can even be mailed! In this video I detail some considerations when (if) you buy you're own stamps.
  5. Letters are marked with a (number) and the date so they can be easily referenced in the future.
  6. I post these letters to encourage others to do the same and to give some ideas of what to say. I hope it moves you to reward your loved ones with your own kind, thoughtful, and loving words.

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Don Shomette
Husband, Dad, Personal & Professional Growth Speaker, Trainer, Consultant, & Behavioral Expert

As an inspirational and motivational speaker that also prevents violence, I have the privilege of helping teachers, principals, superintendents, parents, and school resource officers to make our young people and communities to be safe and also feel loved.

I learned a long time ago and have never wavered or swayed from the belief that people are not a problem to be solved but are the prize to be protected, nurtured, and loved.

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