Make it Easy for Parents to Help!

Parents can be a great help in making your school safer. We just have to tell them how to do it. Like most people, including you and me, parents like simple tasks that are relevant, realistic, and most important—produce results. It’s a real energy drain to be given a task that is so big and squishy that you have no idea when you’ve accomplished it—if you even can.

What I mean is…

Don’t leave it at just asking your parents to help make your school safe. That’s way too big and in truth, impossible to accomplish. Instead, tell your parents to do this one thing…

Tell someone immediately if your child is afraid for their safety or the safety of someone else.


That’s it. The task is relevant, realistic, and will produce enormous results. If every parent did just this one thing, we would greatly reduce violence in our schools and therefore make them safer—a lot safer. At least one student has known about an impending attack in three quarters of previous school attacks.

That means we could have prevented attacks 75% of all school attacks if someone would have just come forward!

If parents know what to do, and their part to play is simple and will make a difference, I have faith they will help us out.

So let’s get them on our team!

I’ve included a short letter to parents. Feel free to use it or to modify it any way that helps you!

Dear Parents,

I have one request and it’s an easy one. Please tell me immediately if your child is afraid for their safety or the safety of someone else. Other schools are suffering violence while students have seen something that scared them, but unfortunately didn't come forward to tell someone.

I don’t want that to happen here! We can’t let that happen here, but it’s going to take all of us working together.

I’ve included a number (email, text, anonymous crisis number, etc) that you can call any time of the day. This may seem like a small part to play, but it’s a critical one and one that will make a big difference in helping us to make our school safer.

Remember, it doesn’t matter how ‘small’ it seems. If there’s even the slightest chance that someone will get hurt—I want to know about it!

Please don’t delay, but call immediately!

If you have any questions, I’m always available for you!


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